Loving Your Spouse to the Extreme (Women)
Series: Theres a Spouse in the House – City Church of Chattanooga, Chattanooga, TN
Pastor Mike Chapman
Last week, we focused on the men. Today, ladies, it’s your turn. I hope you will not discount this message because it is coming from a man. My goal today is not to talk about what I think or to express my opinion. My purpose is to talk about what the Bible says so I hope you will consider what God says about wives.
The first mention of wives is in Genesis 2:18, “God said, ‘It is not good for man to be alone. I will make a companion who will help him.’”
The Bible outlines two types of marriages:
Last week, we focused on the men. Today, ladies, it’s your turn. I hope you will not discount this message because it is coming from a man. My goal today is not to talk about what I think or to express my opinion. My purpose is to talk about what the Bible says so I hope you will consider what God says about wives.
The first mention of wives is in Genesis 2:18, “God said, ‘It is not good for man to be alone. I will make a companion who will help him.’”
The Bible outlines two types of marriages:
1. The Cursed Marriage.
Genesis 3:16, Your desire will be for your husband, and he will rule over you. (NLT)
Desire: desire to conquer, to push aside, to assume his position.
Rule: To be a dictator, leaving no room for any other voice, This is a power-struggle marriage
2. The Redeemed Marriage
Ephesians 5:25, Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.
A redeemed marriage is one in which the wife seeks to submit in humility, and the husband seeks to lead in love.
ACCEPT YOUR HUSBAND’S POSITION AS “HEAD.”
2 This means supporting and encouraging your husband in his role, because he needs your help. Nagging, challenging, criticizing, comparing never work.
Proverbs 21:9, It is better to live alone in the corner of an attic than with a contentious wife in a lovely home. (NLT)
Proverbs 21:19, It is better to live alone in the desert than with a crabby, complaining wife. (NLT)
Proverbs 27:15, 16, A nagging wife is as annoying as the constant dripping on a rainy day. Trying to stop her complaints is like trying to stop the wind or hold something with greased hands. (NLT) It takes a lot of faith to pull this off.
1 Peter 3:1, 5, You wives must accept the authority of your husband…That is the way the holy women of old made themselves
beautiful. They trusted God and accepted the authority of their husbands.
Proverbs 21:9, It is better to live alone in the corner of an attic than with a contentious wife in a lovely home. (NLT)
Proverbs 21:19, It is better to live alone in the desert than with a crabby, complaining wife. (NLT)
Proverbs 27:15, 16, A nagging wife is as annoying as the constant dripping on a rainy day. Trying to stop her complaints is like trying to stop the wind or hold something with greased hands. (NLT) It takes a lot of faith to pull this off.
1 Peter 3:1, 5, You wives must accept the authority of your husband…That is the way the holy women of old made themselves
beautiful. They trusted God and accepted the authority of their husbands.
RESPECT YOUR HUSBAND
Your husband needs to know that you believe in him.
Focus on what your husband is doing well and let him know you notice.
Focus on what your husband is doing well and let him know you notice.
ACKNOWLEDGE HIS EFFORTS TO GROW IN GENTLENESS.
Because of sin (the curse) men tend to lead by intimidation.
So, when your husband repents and is trying to do it God’s way, give him some credit. Cheer him on…build him up.
Proverbs 14:1, A wise woman builds her house. A foolish woman tears hers down with her own hands. (NLT) 3
So, when your husband repents and is trying to do it God’s way, give him some credit. Cheer him on…build him up.
Proverbs 14:1, A wise woman builds her house. A foolish woman tears hers down with her own hands. (NLT) 3
ACCEPT YOUR RESPONSIBILITY TO BE HIS SEXUAL PARTNER.
Here is what God requires of husbands in this matter…
Proverbs 5:18-20, Let your wife be a found of blessing for you.
Rejoice in the wife of your youth. She is a loving doe, a graceful deer. Let her breasts satisfy you always. May you be captivated by her love. Why be captivated, my son, with an immoral woman or embrace the breasts of an adulterous woman? (NLT)
Wives, you are one of the keys to your husband’s holiness in this area of his life.
Wives, this is the extreme love to which God is calling you!
Proverbs 5:18-20, Let your wife be a found of blessing for you.
Rejoice in the wife of your youth. She is a loving doe, a graceful deer. Let her breasts satisfy you always. May you be captivated by her love. Why be captivated, my son, with an immoral woman or embrace the breasts of an adulterous woman? (NLT)
Wives, you are one of the keys to your husband’s holiness in this area of his life.
Wives, this is the extreme love to which God is calling you!
